Monthly Archives: December 2013

The Gallery

Will they never leave? Why? Why do they insist on coming, standing there, staring, driving him deeper and deeper into his shell of isolation, of difference, of not fitting in?

He huddles there in the corner, naked, exposed, the subject of their mirth, their curiosity, their fascination, their scorn. He hides behind a sullen mask, longing only for the day to end, the lights to be turned off. The eyes to be turned off.

Those eyes, raking him over, dragging his heart and soul across the glowing coals of self-doubt. Those eyes, gawking at the shreds of his dignity caught on his rough knees and elbows, held fast in the caverns of the creases between his brows, bulging that damned outie of a navel. Those eyes, scraping and stabbing, poking, refusing him a moment’s respite, controlling him, tormenting him, seeking and finding, damn them, finding every weakness, every scar from yesterday’s eyes, and the day before’s and all the days’ before. Those damned eyes.

If only there were a way to blind them all! Then perhaps he could unbend, no longer needing to hide his most private parts from those eyes. And after he could move again — for he had no illusions that after all this time, he could simply stand and walk away — then he could hunt down the soul-twisted … things … that did this to him, caught him with some sort cosmic fly-paper and carelessly left him there to desiccate into a curiosity, a souvenir brought back from some long pilgrimage to sadism.

He wouldn’t hurt them when he found them. His gentle — and abraded — soul wouldn’t allow for that. But he would ask, no, he would demand to know why.

He prayed to god the answer wouldn’t be, “Because you were there.”

Yes, Erin, You ARE An Activist

My friend, Erin O’Quinn (who’s also a writer, and straight) and I were talking the other day and I mentioned Polari Magazine to her, since she writes MM erotica, some of it set in the early years of the twentieth century and featuring the use of the Polari dialect. She immediately said she needed to be more ‘immersed than in silly romcoms’ (romantic comedy) because she truly believes all people are equal, or should be.  That started a train of thought. (She should know better than to get me thinking, but ….)

She doesn’t realize, as many people outside the LGBTQ [add letters as you see fit] community don’t, that not everything has to be dead serious or political to be a “weapon of war” in the fight for equality. As long as we in “the family” are seen as Other, as different, somehow strange and alien, there will be no equality. Equality is for, well, equals. [Note: in the following paragraphs, I use “us” to mean “society” in general.]

It was all right for Hitler to round up the Jews because they were Other, “not like us”. He wasn’t hurting us. He was ridding us of a threat, a group of people who weren’t quite … people … and who were therefore a threat to all that good, decent folk hold dear. And even if the ovens weren’t really all right, the ghettos were, because they protected us somehow.

It was all right for the KKK to lynch African Americans, because they were Other, “not like us”. They weren’t coming for us. They were ridding us of a threat, a group of people who weren’t quite … people … and who were therefore a threat to all that good, decent folk hold dear. And even if lynching wasn’t really all right, segregation was, because it protected us somehow.

It is all right for the haters, those like Westboro Baptist, to bully, to beat, to criminalize, to deny the LGBTQ community because they are Other, “not like us.” They aren’t bullying and beating and denying us. They are standing for righteousness, ridding us of a threat, a group of people who aren’t quite … people … and who are therefore a threat to all that good, decent folk hold dear. And even if beating isn’t really all right, discrimination is, because it protects us somehow.

When the concentration camps were liberated, and the mass graves found to contain human beings, when there were faces peering back through the barbed wire fences, faces attached to people, by god, people with eyes and arms and toes and hunger and children and dreams that looked just like our eyes and arms and toes and hunger and children and dreams; when the ropes were cut and the trees yielded their grisly fruit, fruit with eyes and arms and toes and hunger and children and dreams that looked just like our eyes and arms and toes and hunger and children and dreams — the “threat” was revealed for what it was: the cowardly grasping fear of a group who had no reason to fear.

When the Matthew Shepards are cut from the fence line, when the graffiti is scrubbed from the porch belonging to the quiet couple in their fifties, when the weeping woman is freed from the cell for trespassing in the house she lived in for twenty years with her lover, when the muck and filth flung by those who find selfhood in hatred is cleared away — the “threat” is revealed for what it is: the same cowardly grasping fear of a group who has no reason to fear.

Every word that Erin writes, that Nya Rawlyns writes, that the many others who write “silly MM (or FF) romcoms” write, every damned word is a revelation of the fact that we are all alike. Gay men and women (use whatever term you like), bisexual, transgendered, queer, asexual men and women (and all the other possibilities) are no different from the rest of society. We want what everyone else wants. Life. Love. A chance to be happy.

Gay men especially suffer from the perception that sex is all they are interested in. This is simply not true. Is sex important to gay men? Sure. Is it important to straight men? Sure. Is it all straight men want? Perhaps at times, yes; but as the overarching drive of their lives? No. Absofuckinglutely not.

And neither is it for gay men. Every “silly romcom” that shows gay men looking for, and finding, love as well as sex proves the haters wrong. We don’t need fewer MM romcoms. We need more. To quote a wise songwriter:

You’d think that people would
Have had enough of silly love songs
But I look around me and I see it isn’t so
Some people wanna fill the world with silly love songs
And what’s wrong with that?

[Paul McCartney, “Silly Love Songs”]

Erin and Nya — you ARE activists. Never doubt it. Not for an instant.

(Books by Erin O’Quinn and Nya Rawlyns, individually and as a team, can be found on Amazon. Links to those books placed in the comments would be welcomed.)

Night Ride Across Kansas

Upon the occasion of driving across Kansas in late November, 2013, Interstate 70

 

The flat and the tall turning in the stripes of red and yellow and blue

White, the giant’s curls, the giants’ songs across the plains and they spin and dance, a curlicue of love and power with pride stand tall.

Brown and weathered the grasses die as winter leads the dance.

And there above, Venus swirls and shadows the rolling rolling rolling hills.

Kansas isn’t flat, the prairie has breasts, teats, paps that feed the land and all who trample her body down.

She gives and gives, the twist and turn of earth beneath the sky sparking for the cities away away away from here and still the earth spins and the prairies pour the milk of wheat and grain and bean, the meat of cow and sheep and all march across her soul.

Wind, wind milling, milling sparks and as the night comes on, the yellow easing into green and blue sky above, violet clouds kiss the horizon with red and winking lights along the giant’s reel.

A square dance and do-si-do and bow to your corner arms akimbo spinning swirl into the night.

Black cutout trees against the light, and in the distance … time.

And in the distance, nothing left to tell the tale of sod and bison and melting trails into the endless count point of dancing day and death-stalked night.

The howl and sting and precious wanderings lift high their hands to dance to dance to everlasting dance and lead us on forever west.

The day, the night, and still they come, the scarlet winks, the whores of promise that it will be all right, that she is endless prairie and her gifts will be new every morning, the glory and the mercy of her bounty ceaseless even in the barrenness of wants.

Ribbons trace and ribbons fall and the dance goes on.

The lighted cross alone in the field a testament of lies declaring providence provides where the storms steal and the gray gives way to blood.

Beauty is in the eye, they say and the prairie’s eye is green and gold and spinning, giant eyes of red on stalks on white, rise rise rise into the night.